tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1166403417023528956.post4098345362949546303..comments2014-08-30T23:58:06.142-07:00Comments on Abuse?: Why didn't it stop?Neighborhood Muslimahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11810234198931978818noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1166403417023528956.post-1108881932200047582011-02-16T23:26:16.153-08:002011-02-16T23:26:16.153-08:00Thank you so much for sharing your story Becky. I...Thank you so much for sharing your story Becky. I am sorry that you had to experience this. May Allah continue to strengthen you. I agree...it is emotional abuse.Neighborhood Muslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11810234198931978818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1166403417023528956.post-87528135286556454032011-02-08T13:38:10.612-08:002011-02-08T13:38:10.612-08:00Even if he hadn't been that much older than yo...Even if he hadn't been that much older than you, even if you hadn't been a child, I would label this behaviour abusive. He's trying to emotionally blackmail you into giving in. I was in a relationship like that, with a Muslim guy also. We had ended up sleeping together, then I converted to Islam and wanted to stop until we were married. He told me that in that case, he would no longer hug me, hold my hand, or even talk to me privately, because that would be haraam. So in the end I gave in. Because I didn't want to make trouble. Because I wanted to feel loved. <br /><br />But that doesn't make the behaviour right. It is emotional abuse. It is threatening you (threats don't have to be of physical violence) that he will remove his love and affection if you don't do as you're told. It is abuse. Even more so because you were just a child.Rebekka @ Becky's Kaleidoscopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08561986047548051036noreply@blogger.com